I was having a normal conversation with a well-known B-boy. It got intense at times but I didn’t expect anything like that when he, out of nowhere, took off his shoe and rubbed his foot on my leg. His action has left me confused and I was unable to react. I felt disrespected as he intruded my space. When I told him that it wasn’t right what he did, he claimed that he was wearing socks and I was wearing pants so he practically didn’t touch me…
I am scared to speak up. I either feel like “it’s not that bad” or “it must have been my fault.” I often hear, “Oh, it’s not just you women who suffer. Men get harassed, too.” Believe me, I know! But that is not what I’m trying to say. I want to raise your awareness that sexual harassment is happening and if anybody tells you about it: DON’T FEEL ATTACKED!! I am a woman and I am speaking from my perspective and I have been grabbed by the ass while cyphering and held by the wrist so I wouldn’t walk away! I am asking for support here. So you want to know how to react then? Listen. Don’t question what happened.
“She must be good in bed! Just Saying!”
“I would fuck jilou so hard!”
“its life, guy shall still bboying and “bgirls” fucked 😀 peace man Ps: im a bboy ^^”
“I only came here for the boobs :(”
“Geiles Stück! xD”
“FAP FAP FAP FAP FAP”
Just a little selection of the comments under my videos… For your information: I was only 18 when I had to read all this. I didn’t earn my jewels at that time but did I want to read any of this? Hell no!
Only the comments made me consider leaving the scene.
The scene confronts you with a lot of hate and not too much support when you’re not famous or bring home the wins. Yes, I got positive feedback, too. People coming up to me and giving me props, but knowing how some people talked about me being closed doors made me cry.
This scene is also dangerous for women. There are enough men out there who will use their power and make us feel very uncomfortable. I’m glad not every woman had to go through that and I wish it won’t happen anymore. BUT, it still happens.
This is where it gets very personal and it takes me a lot to share this story. And no, I won’t mention a name, but I want people to know that this is happening and we as women need support!
So I was invited to an event. I wasn’t with my crew nor with my friends. I was there on my own at age 19. I was extremely excited to be invited to my first international event and even though I lost first round I was very happy to experience everything. To celebrate my success I stayed for the afterparty and luckily stayed sober.
When the party came to an end, a dancer offered me to accompany me to my hotel to make sure I get there safe (I wish I knew what I know today). Once we arrived he asked me to chat a little bit in the lobby and I agreed. It quickly became very clear to me that he was trying to get with me. Sitting closer to me on the couch while I kept my distance. We must have given a funny picture since we traveled across the whole couch from one side to the other. After a few minutes, I had enough of him and decided to go to my room. He followed me to the elevator. He followed me, asking for a kiss. When I told him about my boyfriend, he answered: “Just imagine I am your boyfriend.” I rushed into the elevator and though I made my point clear. I would have never imagined him following me. Even worse he grabbed me by the throat, pushed me against the wall, and kissed me.
With all the power I had, I pushed him away and ran to the staircase. He still followed me. And again luckily I was sober and with adrenalin kicking in I was a lot faster than him and made it to the third floor without him following.
These are just two stories of a few. And I know I am not the only one who had to experience these situations.
Dear everybody, if you see a woman in an uncomfortable situation, ask her if she needs help. B-Boys and alcohol are a dangerous combination and I speak from experience. In my case, a lot of people could have helped me. People were watching when he pushed me against the wall and saw me running away from him. Nobody stepped in. Remember I was just 19.